Tools and Techniques
"When in the 'heat of battle'"
"It is helpful to hold a small library of techniques in your head"
"I've tried hard to give them memorable names"
"And, make sure 'they do what it says on the tin'"
Say It Once And Wait
Children can often take longer than adults to make a transition from one activity to another.
Give them time and they will develop self control.
Step in too quickly and they will enjoy waiting for us to escalate things.
Give In Generously, Or Not At All
The key to avoiding protracted negotiations is to give in quickly or not at all.
Learning to give in, not just quickly, but generously significantly increases the chances of remaining firm when the answer is 'no'.
Give Control To Achieve Control
The more we try to control our children the more they learn to resist.
Giving them control from an early age will teach them to be responsible for themselves and more receptive to us when we need them to be.
Say 'Yes' or Say Nothing
The Power of Attention
The Gift of Time
Always Good or Learning
Always On Their Side, Not By Their Side
Treat Them As They Would Be Treated
Don't Mess With Emotion
Know Yourself To Know Them
If You Don't Need To Intervene Physically, Don't Intervene Verbally
